It may seem that after the wedding planning is over, there would be nothing else to worry about.
You thought the proposal was nerve racking! Have you thought about your grooms speech? The wedding is arranged, the honeymoon planned and you’ve been fitted for your tuxedo. It wasn’t until then, did you realize you don’t know what you’re going to say!!
If you are like the average man, you’re probably not fond of standing before a large group of people and giving a speech. But this is your wedding day and you will be expected to give the groom’s speech to all the well-wishers in attendance. Keep reading this article as it was designed to make preparing and executing your speech as painless as possible.
When To Start Preparing Your Grooms Wedding Speeches
The first thing to do is to start preparing your speech a few weeks before the wedding. If you give yourself the appropriate lead time it will help you feel a lot more confident and comfortable about speaking before a crowd. Make it a point to stop dreading giving the groom’s speech; you may be inclined to keep putting it off.
It makes sense to begin this preparation early, because you will be your busiest during the final two to three weeks before the wedding. Reviewing your groom’s speech two to three times per week will give you the advantage of becoming more familiar with it and will allow you time to make any revisions if needed.
Write Down Your Speaking Points On A Card
Your first attempt at preparing your groom’s speech may leave you staring blankly at a white page. This speech is meant to be short – usually 3-5 minutes at most – so don’t worry about having to come up with a lot of things to say. Mainly you will want to acknowledge friends, family and guests, so jot a few names down and think about how to address each of these audiences.
You will certainly want to acknowledge your new wife, how you met, what attracted you to her and how she has enhanced your life since you’ve been together. This is her special day and there is no better time for you to get a little romantic and share why she is so special in your life.
When you have finally arranged what you want to say, write it down on an index (3x 5) card so you can refer to it as you deliver your groom’s speech in an easy flowing manner.
Who You Will Address?
When the time for toasting arrives, you will want to thank and acknowledge the wedding party – relate to them how special it was to have them be a part of your wedding celebration. Next will be the parents – both your parents and the bride’s parents – who through this matrimonial celebration have become a family. Do not forget to thank the guests in attendance that made it a point to be present and share this very special day. Lastly, make a special toast to your new bride and express your love and devotion to her as her new husband.
How to Remain Cool, Calm and Collected
Alcohol will be present at every rehearsal dinner and wedding reception. It is advisable to hold off on drinking until after you have delivered your groom’s speech to your audience. This will be one of the most memorable days of your life and you don’t want to chance embarrassing yourself and new bride by ingesting too much alcohol. After your speech and your toast you will have plenty of time to join in the evening’s festivities.
The best groom wedding speeches are delivered from the heart so just try to relax and take a few deep breaths before you begin. You will be in a room full of people who are there to support you and your new wife, there are not there to judge you. Take this opportunity to share your nuptials and happiness with your guests and express how blessed you are in this moment. If you keep your focus on your gratitude your groom’s speech will be a total success!